The fix it generation

There is no secret to long lasting relationships or marriages. When you come up in a time when you take care good of things you enjoy, so you can enjoy it even longer, then you have come up right. This is one of the breakdowns I see occuring around us all too often.

Marriage isn't the work part, that's the fun part. The work part, is working on compromise, respect, and putting someone besides your own needs first. I see so many people my age each longing to be in a lasting relationship, but they are not willing to put forth the effort it takes to make that happen. One fight these days justifies, a wild night out on the town with the buddies, rather than a quiet moment in a peaceful place to sort out your differences with your partner. See how the two differ? The, "I don't get mad I get even", attitude and lack of effort is ruining relationships.

I realize we all like to imagine that we are right on all fronts. However marriage is 50/50 love and sacrifice. You have to be willing to go to that dreadful sports store with your husband if he is willing to go to Linens N Things with you. You have to pick up a book and read during the world's longest boring football pre-season game if he is willing to watch a Nicholas Sparks movie with you. Its give and take. I see too many people take, take, take, and no give, and then they can't understand what went wrong. People today are more interested in finding someone to take care of them, rather than have a companion. Life is a journey pick someone willing to work as hard as you to make both of your dreams come true.

Lasting relaitonships occur when you find something wrong you work together to fix it, instead many have the mentality its broke, I should just get new. Imagine you have a five year old Tahoe, its been good to you, loyal, fun, but its brakes go out, and it has slightly higher mileage. Do you trade it in for a new car (which will get old too) or do you just get the brakes repaired? I realize this is an obtuse example of a relationship, but it is true. People are quick to trade in for a newer model when the truth is if you keep driving your cars the same way, they will eventually all have the same problem. So....you have to fix your problem, and then you get more years together.

Its a funny concept, to place people in the (brake shoes) of cars...lol. It is really that simple. Be willing to match each of your takes with a give, and you will be surprised how fast the years pass with moments of great happiness.